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The Reality Choice
July 13, 2025
Discussion Guide
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INTRODUCTION 

How are you doing—really? Do you have it all together? Do you say you’re okay, even when you’re not? That means you are like everyone you lock eyes with—we are all dealing with hurts, habits and hangups.

Without a doubt, life is hard. But this is also true: God is good! He has made a way that leads to hope, healing and freedom—through a relationship with Jesus!

As you begin to walk this road to recovery, remember what Solomon wrote in Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 NLT, “Two people are better than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.” Invite someone to join you as you start making your new healing choices.

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS 

  1. We all try to play God by attempting to control every aspect of our life. List some ways you try to control your image, your problems, your pain, or other people.
  2. Why do you feel the need to be in control? 
  3. Read the passage again from Romans 7:15-17. Can you relate to that? Share your experiences with this kind of tension. 
  4. The Bible says “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble” (James 4:6 NIV) Why do you think God “opposes the proud”? What does it mean to humble yourself before God? 

MOVING FORWARD 

C.S. Lewis said, “God whispers to us in our pleasures, but he shouts to us in our pain.” That pain can be physical, emotional, relational, or financial. What might God be saying to you through your pain right now? 

We are all powerless over something. This week, make the first healing choice — pray for God to give you the willingness and the courage to admit where you are powerless. 


CHANGING YOUR MIND 

Jesus: “Happy are those who know they are spiritually poor.”
Matthew 5:3

HELPFUL DISCUSSION GROUP GUIDELINES

It's a good idea for every group to put words to their shared values, expectations, and commitments. Such guidelines will help you avoid unspoken agendas and unmet expectations. We recommend you discuss your guidelines during your first session together — in order to lay the foundation for a healthy group experience. Feel free to modify anything that does not work for your group.
We agree to the following values:
  • CLEAR PURPOSE To grow healthy spiritual lives by building a healthy discussion group community
  • GROUP ATTENDANCE To give priority to the group meeting (call if I am absent or late)
  • SAFE ENVIRONMENT To create a safe place where people can be heard and feel loved (no quick answers, snap judgments, or simple fixes)
  • BE CONFIDENTIAL To keep anything that is shared strictly confidential and within the group
  • CONFLICT RESOLUTION To avoid gossip and to immediately resolve any concerns by following the principles of Matthew 18:15-17
  • SPIRITUAL HEALTH To give group members permission to speak into my life and help me live a healthy, balanced spiritual life that is pleasing to God
  • LIMIT OUR FREEDOM To limit our freedom by not serving or consuming alcohol during small group meetings or events so as to avoid causing a weaker brother or sister to stumble (1 Corinthians 8:1-13; Romans 14:19-21)
  • WELCOME NEWCOMERS To invite friends who might benefit from this study and warmly welcome newcomers
  • BUILD RELATIONSHIPS To get to know the other members of the group and pray for them regularly
  • OTHER ________________________________________________________________